Late last year, I started doing weekly healing sessions on my sweet “little” sister (we’re both in our 60’s, but she will always be my “little sister”). I love working with her because, of course, I love her – and she is really open to hearing what I am sensing. She does not get defensive or make excuses – she really wants to heal. So, what she could take as criticism from me, she takes as healing that she can expand on.
Not long after I started the healing sessions, I realized that her whole body and her whole life, including past lives, was all about fear, feeling unsafe, feeling like a victim, etc. A very different reality from mine, even though we grew up together. My story about that healing is here.
Alot of my focus on my sister was calming the fear, helping her let go of the past, calming her brain and kidneys and adrenals. Basically, I was focusing on the problem and trying to remove it, which can perpetuate the problem. What we resist, persists!
Then I had an “aha moment.” I thought about our childhood and family, and about even though it was dysfunctional, there was lots of good, lots of fun. So, I phoned my sister and suggested that it is time to get into gratitude for what’s good now – and what was good growing up. She was so cute – she immediately started naming lots and lots of fun times, blessings, and really got into the process of being grateful for her life. I was amazed. This was a totally different energy than “life is hard and then you die.” My sister remembers alot more than I do from our growing up time. She just kept remembering the good, and we both felt happy and grateful.
In the process of remembering good times, my sister helped to re-program her cells, helped her body come into present time and feel the blessings in her life. Her kidneys and adrenals felt so much better. Her brain felt better. Her energy was lighter and much more empowered.
We all get into feeling down, discouraged, overwhelmed – I know I do, especially these days. I am so grateful for all the tools I have to help myself feel better. One of the simplest is to ask myself “What’s good?” “What am I grateful for?” “How can I help or support or make a positive difference in someone else’s life right now?”
It’s easy to get into gratitude – for the very simplest of things like a healthy body that works well, to my flannel sheets, my soft bed, my supportive husband, my safe home, my car with gasoline in it, food in the house, living near the ocean – the list goes on and on.
What’s good??