I have been the queen of “stuffing it” – being patient, being compassionate, being understanding – AND too much of the time, being angry or frustrated or sad or afraid – and not really being aware of it! It’s how I was raised. It’s how “nice people” act. It’s an unconscious reaction – or it used to be. I remember talking to my mother and sister years ago about “boundaries” – and they asked in unison “What’s a boundary?” Ha Ha!
The older I get, the more aware I am of how I am feeling in the moment, rather than unconsciously ignoring my feelings. And, although my automatic response is often still to “stuff it”, my conscious response is to speak up, or to make a note and when I have a few moments, to let go.
How do we let those bad feelings go? My favorite tool is tapping (EFT, “Emotional Freedom Technique”). I also use Reiki to calm and balance myself, journaling, exercise, talking – but tapping has been an amazing and wonderful gift in my life.
Since I started tapping (and taking courses in tapping) in 2010, I have dropped almost 30 pounds effortlessly (I just don’t want to eat as much), I am happier, more loving, more at peace… I use tapping when I am angry at someone, when I am resisting work or something else, when I am afraid. I sometimes use tapping to help me get clear about “what’s underneath the underneath”.
Happy 2013! I feel so good about this year and all the expansion and lightness I sense. It is time to let go of the “bad feelings” – whether present or past – and move closer to who you really are.
Fun blessings to you!