“What I know for sure is that when you declutter – whether it’s on your home, your head, or your heart – it is astounding what will flow into that space that will enrich you, your life, and your family.” – Peter Walsh

I celebrated a lovely, quiet, enlightening birthday a few weeks ago. I relaxed, and one step at a time, I tuned into what felt good. I ended up driving south along the coast to one of my favorite places on the planet – Point Lobos State Natural Reserve, in Carmel. I hiked around, in awe at the beauty, the blue, blue ocean and sky, the smells, the wild flowers – so very grateful for my life. I then stopped at the Monterey Bay Aquarium to feel the underwater energy and beauty, and headed home – feeling peaceful and very satisfied.

As much as I loved my adventures that day, what stayed with me the most was some healing I did for myself while I was driving south. Yes, I do healing in the car – with one or both hands on the wheel!

As I was driving, I was thinking about judgement. How much we judge each other, how judged we are by our culture – and how we judge ourselves – generally much more harshly than we judge others. I was getting a visual of how ingrained all these judgements are – how we think they are true. They are like embedded programs that our thoughts, emotions, and bodies are using as a calibration standard.

I heard “It’s time to recalibrate!” What a concept! That we can get rid of what we are not, and recalibrate to who and what we are!

So, I started sending healing to myself – with the intention and experience of vacuuming out all the old judgements. My first visual was that I was so full of judgement that there wasn’t much room for anything else, not room for who I really am. Who we think we are, who we have been told we are – is typically not who we are. It was my birthday, and my intention was to start this next trip around the sun clean and clear. To recalibrate so that I am in alignment with who I am, not with the old programs.

As I drove, I felt lighter and lighter – and a bit disoriented. Who am I? But like wet sand at the beach, when you make space (dig a hole), it will fill itself up. So, as I cleared out who I am not, my spirit came more fully into my body. I could start fresh.

“When you discover something that nourishes your soul, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.” – Jean Shinoda Bolen