I have been the queen of stuffing it - being patient, being compassionate, being understanding - AND too much of the time, being angry or frustrated or sad or afraid - and not really being aware of it! Its how I was raised. Its how nice people act. Its an unconscious reaction - or it used to be. I remember talking to my mother and sister years ago about boundaries - and they asked in unison Whats a boundary?. Ha Ha!
The older I get, the more aware I am of how I am feeling in the moment, rather than unconsciously ignoring my feelings. And, although my automatic response is often still to stuff it, my conscious response is to speak up, or to make a ... READ MORE